THE POWER OF LOVING, FINDING WHAT'S RIGHT, AND EMPOWERING For Value Giving LEADERS

GREAT COMPANY PROMOTES GOOD CHARACTER

If we really had to choose, most of us would choose great relationships or friendships over bad company. As the saying goes: Bad company corrupts good character. On the flip side, great company promotes good character, which is exactly what positive leaders crave to develop. By and large, people would rather spend time with a good friend who is fun and positive to be around and build character rather than a bad friend who chronically complains and is negative. An atmosphere where fun and positivity reigns is enjoyable and attractive. It fills the spirit with joy and body with energy. Such an environment is electrifying and of great appeal to emerging leaders who want to leave recharged, refreshed, and ready to go out to impact their city.  

THE REFRESHING BREEZE OF ENCOURAGEMENT 

When it comes down to it, fun and positivity add more to one’s quality of life than complaint and negativity. It takes extra effort to push through one’s own, other people’s, and circumstantial negativity to turn it into something positive, good, and noble. But it’s all worth it. A fun and positive friend is someone who has the tendency to encourage you, believe in you, and give you a sense of belonging. This friend challenges you, in love, to live up to higher standards and morals. A real friend proactively creates ways to have something good or of great value to say to you or about you, others, and circumstances. Valuable encouragement is as refreshing as a cool breeze on a hot summer day or an ice cold water to a thirsty desert traveler. By and large, it is those kinds of people who easily find a place within our top 5 list of favorite friends that we know, trust, and love to spend quality time with. But what exactly makes them so special? 

CHOICES THAT EMPOWER POSITIVE LEADERS AND THEIR TEAMS

The positive leadership behaviors that make this type of person so valuable and a well sought after commodity by other leaders and followers alike are all choices. These high performance choices include: (1) the choice to love you as opposed to be indifferent or hostile towards you, (2) the decision to be meticulously intentional in finding and focusing on what’s right with you rather than what’s wrong, and (3) the choice to empower you to grow towards your goals and potential to become the best version of yourself. This intentional empowerment is quintessential for any leader to grow greatly in character, positive leadership, personal agency, team work, and responsibility.

GROW YOUR HEART TO LOVE FOLLOWERS AND LEADERS

To become a positive leader who adds value to other people and your city, you need to develop a genuine drive and enthusiasm to grow your heart in the capacity to love. Learning to authentically love people is key to leadership and culture that is based on trust and meaningful relationships. It is important to note that, first and foremost, loving people love other people, while hurting people tend to engage in behaviors that hurt other people. In other words, the prerequisite to loving other people is to cultivate love in your own heart first. To do that, you have to be loving towards yourself first by counting your blessings. When you count your blessings, you feel blessed yourself. In turn, when you feel blessed, you are in the ideal position to pass blessings on to others. Your cup is full and ready to overflow into other people’s cups. That is, you now get to be a blessing by blessing others with faith, hope, and love. 

FIND WHAT'S RIGHT WITH PEOPLE AND AUDIBLY VOICE IT TO THEM

To become a positive leader who adds value to other people and your city, you will also find a lot of value to developing the habit of finding what’s right with people. Any fool can criticize and complain. It takes zero talent to condemn and be downright condescending. However, beware of such toxic behaviors. Psychologists will tell us that when you criticize someone, you actually condemn yourself. On the other hand, when you edify someone, you uplift yourself and build not only your own self-esteem, but you also deposit great esteem and value inside the other person. This is a crucial win-win interaction that builds strong people, leaders, and communities. When we find what’s wrong with people, we make our world a worse place, but when we learn to find what’s right with people, we make the world we live in better. 

EMPOWERMENT IS THE NAME OF A LEADER’S GAME

How then do we improve the climate of our cities in the long term and become a positive leader who adds value to other people and your city? You will augment the quality of the atmosphere that you create wherever you go by empowering people. Empowering people takes planning and intentionality. Furthermore, one needs action to translate a plan and intention into its tangible reality. What effective leadership actions are we referring to? We are referring to sharing one smile, one kind word, one compliment, one moment of praise, and one authentic compliment at a time with someone in our path. Once again, such a selfless positive behavior requires pushing past our selfish tendencies to keep to ourselves or prejudge others, but it makes life more meaningful and joyful for all, especially knowing how much people really crave and value authentic receiving intentional acts of kindness.

GREAT COMPANY DEVELOPS POSITIVE CHOICES AND OUTCOMES

Positive individuals push through everything that is base in order to create and forge the best in their own characters and in the character of the people they come in contact with on an everyday basis. Other people’s character can be positively shaped and impacted if they desire change, growth, and transformation. People who are moldable, coachable, and willing to be influenced long to be on the receiving end of these three positive leadership behaviors that create a healthy atmosphere and city: (1) to be loved (2) to find and focus on what’s right with them, and (3) to be empowered to grow towards their goals and potential to become the best version of themselves. If we, as leaders, intentionally plan and execute these effective leadership practices, our cities become just a little bit better. If we compound all those littles over time, we get a huge change for the better. 

ABOUT

Pascal and Lindsey Weber are the owners of Kingdom Enterprises, a personal platform for sharing perspectives on education and leadership development. Pascal completed his M.A. in Leadership Studies at the University of San Diego and Lindsey obtained her M.A. in Education and ESOL from Salisbury University. They are passionate about loving God, inspiring personal breakthroughs, and leading positive impact. Lindsey is an esteemed Education Specialist Lead and decorated former NCAA DIII athlete. Pascal’s professional contributions to Education and Leadership Development are inspired by #1 leadership expert Dr. John C. Maxwell. Today, Pascal and Lindsey live with their three children in San Diego, California.